Homage to my Husband

This is an homage to my husband.

Those of us that know Carlos & I, really know Carlos & I, know that Carlos & I are perfect for each other. It’s always Sana & Carlos & Carlos & Sana.

I’m crazy planned, organized, & stressed. He’s spontaneous, laidback, & happy.

Besides this, though, my husband is the husband that I need him to be. I’m a very reflective wife - I consider, adjust the ways that I can love Carlos better.

For Carlos, it comes natural.

Cookies from Quiktrip on my bad days, trips to Target just for fun, songs in the car that he know we’ll be able to jam out to.

My upbringing was rooted in patriarchy. Much of the Latinx culture is rooted in patriarchy, whether we’d like to admit it or not. So, growing up, I learned that a wife serves her man. She’s the one to clean, cook, & make the sacrifices. The only one.

Serving my man is something I enjoy very much - not that it’s for everyone & not that he doesn’t serve me. The ways to Carlos’ heart is through his stomach 😂, so I love cooking him a good meal. I love the feeling of giving him a clean house to come home to after a long day at work. I love going above & beyond to make our house a home.

Carlos, though, he’s not one to expect it to be all done by me. There are weeks when laundry just hasn’t been done. Without hesitation, he’ll do it. There are days, especially now being almost 9 months pregnant 😪, when dinner isn’t made. Without hesitation, he’ll pick something up. 😂 Side note: Carlos willllll cook but under just a tad bit of instruction cus lawd…. 😅 Carlos is the hardworking man that is so expected from my upbringing’s patriarchy & somehow even more.

Carlos is the hardest working person I know, bar none. I’ve never known absolutely anyone who will work as hard as Carlos does.

Carlos works 8-9 hours a day at his job, which isn’t an easy one. I’m so proud, so happy for him that he’s found a career that he loves. However, it’s not an easy one. You will never catch Susana in an airplane’s small corners replacing stuff (don’t know what stuff 😂). Carlos does this every single day. Even on the toughest days, after the toughest projects, Carlos comes home with a smile on his face.

For the last 2 years, Carlos & his dad have been remodeling our fixer upper. This means that after working for 9 hours, he works on our house in the evenings for 4-5 hours, almost every single day. He does house fixer upper stuff (again 🤷🏻‍♀️😂) & comes home after sundown appreciative for what I’ve gotten done & happy to see us. No complaints, no negativity, no bad attitude.

I appreciate this so much. Especially because I find it difficult to stay positive always. After my hard days, I complain. I cry. I spew negativity.

Not only is this not him, he irons it all out in me. After the extremely physically draining days that he has, his willing to use his mental energy to love me, cuddle me, baby me, & entertain me.

The best part? Carlos & I are the best of friends.

We’ve spent almost half of our lives together at this point, & we enjoy every single second. We do what we want - together. We avoid events, negativity, things - together. We make plans, execute - together. We get silly, crazy, drunk, irresponsible - together. We’ve been on the most random of vacations. On those vacations, we’ve done random things - from walking up mountains in jeans to a wine trail when we had never drank wine before in our lives. 😂

If you know Carlos, you know he’s not only the most laidback in the room, he is the funniest. There is never a time that Carlos turns off his wit & his comedic genius. He can turn every single moment, even the most difficult ones, into one where everyone is having fun.

The purpose of this quick piece is to pay homage to my husband for being who he is, effortlessly. He’s the perfect husband for me, the perfect dog-dad for our Cookie, Nina, & Lola, &, now, the perfect papi for our Carlos Amado. I look forward to sharing Carlos’ love with him - he’s the luckiest little boy. It also doesn’t hurt that he’s also the most handsome man in every room we walk into & that his arms wrap around me just right. 🥰

Carlos, I’ll love you forever.

Sana